Understanding

When we lack a clear understanding of something, it can easily lead to stress or make an already tense situation even worse.

The dictionary defines “understanding” as having “insight or good judgment” and being “sympathetically aware of others’ feelings; tolerant and forgiving.” However, the core meaning is simply “the ability to comprehend.” While that sounds straightforward, true understanding can often be challenging to achieve.

Take, for example, our interactions with technology. How many times have you felt frustrated because a button didn’t do what you expected it to do? It’s no wonder that so many devices have come close to being thrown out of windows in moments of exasperation!

Often, the real struggle for understanding occurs between people. This could be between individuals, genders, generations, or cultures. Years ago, I picked up the book “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” by John Gray because it sometimes felt like men and women were speaking completely different languages. Today, there are countless resources—websites, audiobooks, courses, YouTube videos, and organisations—designed to help parents understand their teenagers (where were these when I needed them back in 2012?).

So, how can we improve our understanding? First and foremost, patience is key. Asking questions is a great way to deepen our knowledge on any subject. Keeping an open mind and trying to see things from another person’s perspective is also essential.

As Lemony Snicket wisely said, “Just because you don’t understand it doesn’t mean it isn’t so.”

And remember, it’s always okay to reach out for help when you need it.